The honeymoon phase is when couples are at their best but this stage fizzles out very fast when the realities of day to day life start to set in. When the honeymoon phase ends, it is not always the easiest thing to feel connected to your partner. In the day to day chaos of contemporary life, it is a lot easier these days to find yourself thrown into a routine, especially in a relationship.
You might find yourself going through the motions with your significant other instead of enjoying spending time together. It happens to the best of us- yes, even your parents who’ve been together for years, have probably had their fair moments of boredom to contend with.
It is quite alright not to feel stimulated all the time by your partner. After all, work gets in the way keeping your occupied and before you even realize it, it may have been a while before you and your partner shared any tender moments. That said, you must find ways to stimulate each other in new and exciting ways. If the relationship remains stagnant for long, it may not be healthy enough to foster any growth.
If you are feeling distant from your partner, you may be racking your brain trying to come up with little ways to get closer to each other. Fortunately, it is entirely possible to heal a distant relationship quickly and spectacularly with mind-blowing effects by making small changes. To set you up for success, here are some underrated ways for couples to get closer to each other:
Be more willing to explore sexually
Better sex makes couples happier, closer and healthier, and that’s a proven fact. One way to make sure that you are having great sex is to be open and honest with your partner about your sexual desires. When you are willing to be more explorative with one another, you will not only learn more about each other, but you will also enjoy better sex- and who doesn’t want that?
To begin being more explorative, start by incorporating small things and see how your partner responds. If you are looking to introduce sex toys, for instance, try starting with a small one such as a cock ring or a pocket vibrator. The more positive the experiences, the more open your partner will be to introducing some grander components down the sexual road.
Figure out your partner’s love language
Two individuals could click well with each other and may even have been in a relationship for years, but they may not necessarily speak the same love language. When one partner speaks a love language that the other partner does not fully understand, it can be a source of strife in the relationship.
The best way to discover and examine your partner’s love language is to look closely at the way you two express your love for one another. Perhaps you love to be touched and need to hear affirming words such as ‘I love you’ or ‘you are good looking’ and so forth. If this is the case, then your love language is physical touch and words of affirmation.
But perhaps you are not getting that from your partner. On the other hand, your partner may be expressing their love by doing little things for you such as buying your favorite snacks or tidying up when you are tired but you don’t recognize it. That’s why it is so essential to sit down and have a conversation about how you like to express and receive love.
All too often, couples spend time together, stuck on their phones. While they may be physically present with one another in the same room, they are not mentally connected. As a couple, you should designate time to unplug together.
Pick an activity that prevents you from being on your gadgets- that means no phones, tablets or laptops. A great activity that you can try is cooking together. Go shopping for ingredients for a new recipe together and prepare the meal, as well as clean up together and you will realize how much closer you feel to one another after you are done.
Organize a date night
Once couples establish a healthy routine, dates start to take a backseat. When you have been together for a long time, date night ceases to be a luxury and starts to become a necessity. And when kids come along, dating one another again becomes even more important.
Date nights are critical because they present great opportunities for couples to communicate and this is what helps couples to deepen their bond and understanding of each other. Constant communication is so important in relationships because individuals continue to change as time progresses.
And as the relationship evolves, they start to encounter new challenges and problems that must all the dealt with appropriately. Date nights also help to strengthen your sense of commitment to each other. Take time to go on planned dates from romantic dinners to going to the movies, which will go a long way in keeping your chemistry alive.
Ideally speaking, the palpable intimacy that is shared by a couple should be the center of any healthy relationship. Truthfully speaking, however, this kind of intimacy isn’t always something that couples can sustain, especially after they have been together for many years.
When 2 people first get together, everything is roses and rainbows. During the honeymoon phase, nothing can go wrong, until it does. When the dust clears and the couple falls into a routine, it brings with it a sense of structure and stability. And this is when the intimacy levels start to dwindle.
If left ignored, this could spell doom for a couple. So couples must then find ways to get closer to each other again. The minute a couple decides to be complacent is when individuals begin to take advantage of one another, which is the last thing anyone wants for their relationship. So if you are looking for intimate ways to stay closer to your partner, these tips should do the trick. You’re welcome, by the way.